# Prayer for Torah 89

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89.

Almighty, blessed God, in Your bountiful mercy... have mercy on all those Jews for whom it is difficult to find a spouse (in particular so and so, son of so and so). Help them and save them very speedily so that each one merits to find his or her true, worthy partner from Heaven, without any delay and without any suffering at all. We don’t know at all, nor do we have any counsel or strategy how to find a spouse for each person. You know how difficult it is for a person to find his or her spouse, for all partnerships are from two opposites. Sometimes they are very great opposites such that it’s as difficult to match them as splitting the Red Sea! It is therefore impossible to join them and match them other than by the true understanding with which all the matchmaking is arranged. Therefore we need to hear Torah from the mouth of he who has true understanding, who produces wonderful innovations in Torah, who joins and matches words of Torah from one place to another by which all matchmaking is accomplished in the world. However, as a result of our many iniquities he has become hidden from us and we don’t know how to find this master of holy understanding in order to hear Torah from his mouth. Now, from where will our aid come? Therefore our eyes are turned to You alone; You who are full of compassion, who sits and arranges matches. Have pity on all Your People who need to find their spouse (in particular...). Send to each one very speedily his or her worthy true spouse from Heaven. Let her be as he wants and may she be a help to him. Unique Lord, Full of Compassion, who looks till the end of all generations, who governs His world in loving-kindness and His creatures in mercy, take pity and have mercy on the days of youth of the youngsters of Your People. Inform us of Your ways. How can we merit to know and find the true spouses of all those dependent on us? Grant us merit and help us, and in the strength and merit of great, true tzaddikim, who are the holy understanding of all the worlds, who drew and revealed a truly wonderful and great understanding in This World also, help us to quickly find the spouse of every individual of Your People. Let us speedily marry them off with good fortune, for a good, long life and peace. Let her be as he desires and not oppose him at all, Heaven forbid. Rather, let them live in love and peace, in holiness and purity as is truly Your desire.

90.

 In breaking a china plate at an engagement party (as is the custom) we hint to the groom and remind him that Hell exists. This is to remind him so that he will not become bound up after his physical craving but rather he should sanctify himself properly in his marital relations. It also hints to him that if his wife turns out to be evil he should not betray her nor should he divorce her for through her he will be saved from seeing the face of Hell, as the Sages promised. One must be very careful not to divorce one's wife.